With the revolutions in communication technology it became somewhat possible to maintain a super long distance relationship. We are not talking about different cities or even different countries. We are talking about different continents, different time zones. My girlfriend and I are SIX THOUSAND miles apart. 13 hours time difference. That might be enough for a good majority of people to not be a part of the relationship. It takes a different level of crazy to attempt something like this. In our case though, it even started as a long distance relationship so we didn’t find it that hard to adjust. We have been together for thirteen months now, and have met only once for a month in between. So, how do we do it and what are some of the MAJOR annoyances of a super long distance relationship?
How do I make my super long distance relationship work?
1. Make sure you love your partner like crazy (and vice versa)
Is this even worth mentioning? By far the most important fuel a long distance relationship needs is love between the couple. Not to say that short distance relationships do not need this tonic but it is at least a thousand times more critical in a long distance one. Reasoning is simple, what’s the point of being in a long distance relationship when there is no love?
2. Sending gifts
You don’t have to spend a fortune on gifts, but I think sending something once in a while tells your partner that you care for them. It also lets you provides you with something you can touch and feel to somewhat help the constant absence of your partner.
3. Being stubborn
Stubbornness is vital. As long as the situation isn’t crossing the limit for you, make sure you give efforts to get things back as they were. Do not let everyday quarrels become too big, do not discuss yesterday’s argument today. You have to have the stubbornness to continue being with the person you love no matter how irritating the distance is. Without the constant will to be together, a long distance relationship might quickly wither in the absence of physical touch and intimacy. We say mean things to each other frequently, but our stubbornness keeps us together.
Annoyances of a super long distance relationship
1. Different time zones
Let’s start with the elephant in the room, different time zones. This is simply the worst. Time zone difference makes our fights an absolute nightmare for one of us, i.e. the one who has morning or day time at his/her place. The one with night time can simply go to sleep and forget about what happened the next morning but the other partner has to spend the whole day pissed. In our case, it’s almost always me. We usually connect over video chat during my morning and her night, that’s because she wakes up late in the morning and by the time she wakes up it’s already too late at my place. So whenever we have a heated exchange of words, she would conveniently go to sleep while I have to go through the day feeling horrible. There’s no way I can contact her for another eight hours and as this almost always happens on weekend, I can not distract myself with work either.
2. Weekends are the only hope for long meaningful conversations
Every morning when I wake up the only thing on my mind is to get ready for work. She is back from work and I usually have her in the background throughout the morning. Although this is one of the sweetest things in our relationship as you will see in following section, we cannot use this time to talk about anything important. Then I get to work and she is off to sleep. When I finally get back home she wakes up and gets ready to go to work while I go to bed. What this means is that we can only rely on weekends for anything important to talk about or for getting into some intimate conversation.
3. OUR weekends are just one day long
Our weekend does not start on my Friday night, because my Friday night is her Friday morning and she is off to work. Our weekend starts on my Saturday morning, that is when she is back home on Friday evening. And it ends on my Sunday afternoon right after she goes to bed. My Sunday evenings don’t mean anything for us as when she wakes up I must go to bed to wake up on time the next morning for work.
4. All other annoyances of a long distance relationship
You cannot touch her, you cannot hug her, you cannot wipe the tears off her face. You cannot go on real dates, you cannot walk on streets while holding hands. It’s really no point describing this point in detail, you all know what I am talking about.